I have a pet peeve which isn’t surprising to all who really know me—I have several. The one that bothers me the most is swear words, curse words, bad language, and filthy words. Call it whatever you want, it bothers me. I’m not pious over this type of behavior. Curse words are not beyond my behaviors. I can let them fly that’s for sure but I feel badly when I do. I always try to ask for forgiveness right away. I know that when I was living a sinful life I thought that language added “salt” to what I said. Those words made me look worldly, mature, and tough! Now that I’m much older and much wiser and with a heart for Jesus those words sting when I hear them. I think they sound harsh and depending on what’s going on at the time, they sound violent.
I was attending a seminar just recently. A beautiful woman in her late forties was speaking about her life. She “peppered” her speech with words that I felt were offensive. I lost the focus of what she had accomplished, the things that she had been through, and the injustices that she had suffered because of her language. She overcame a lifetime of problems but it was all lost to me. It was a good lesson for me. Watch my adjectives!
I have worked in the restaurant business for many years. I was amazed at the old folks who came in for service. Many used swear words as freely as they breathed air. When I worked in a nursing home, I was shocked at the elderly who were at death’s door but used swear words almost every other word they spoke. They were often bitter, hateful people who had many few people visiting them. I wondered if there was a direct correlation to their words, attitude, and people who were left in their lives.
When I was the principal of a charter school and the “scholars” were referred to me because of their bad language, I would often ask them if their mother taught them to talk like that. Did their dad teach them that language? I remember one young man’s answer when I asked him if his grandma had taught him that kind of language. He thought for a moment and then answered, “Well, yes!”
After using those kinds of words during my rebellious twenties and my non-conforming thirties, I decided that those kinds of words make the initiator look very uneducated. Don’t get me wrong. I still struggle with those words. I find that the more I’m around others who talk like that the more those words remain on the surface of my thinking. They’ll slip out if I’m not especially careful about what I’m going to say. I don’t want to be caught up in that language anymore. It’s old behavior for me and it is something that I struggle to overcome. Most importantly, I understand that the words that are coming out of my mouth are a direct reflection of what’s going on in my heart. When I’m not spending time in prayer, when I’m not fellowshipping with other believers, when I don’t meditate on the Word, I gravitate toward the world.
Word abusers, who get caught up in using four-lettered words, are limiting their vocabulary. My mom told me that every word that we speak is bottled up and we will give an account of those words when we stand at judgment! Ugh! I pity everyone standing in line behind me because it’s going to take a while when it’s my turn! I don’t know if that’s scriptural or not but I want to be judged on my encouraging words; words that I used to lift up people. Seriously, the Bible tells us in Psalm 19:14 (NIV) “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.”
Most of us “practice” at using swear words when we first start that kind of language. We think if we add that word here or put this word in there it will give us some authority, some respect, like we’re in control. I believe that the things that we put into our minds can get bolded just like the “bold” key we use on the computer. When we bold stamp those words on our brain they remain there. I know! I have to apologize for my language. I ask God to help me before I speak. I ask for forgiveness when I slip. Most importantly, I know when I memorize scripture, when I increase my vocabulary by learning new words that are good words, when I practice thinking before I speak; I do a much better job at speaking. That woman I told you about earlier could just have easily been me. I don’t want to be remembered for my filthy mouth. I want to be remembered for being positive, educated, and eloquent when I speak. I want to reflect Jesus Christ through my language. Proverbs 8:8 “All the words of my mouth are just; none of them is crooked or perverse.” And one last thing my grandmother taught me, “Keep your words soft and sweet, because you never know when you’ll have to eat them!” God bless you!